I’m going to share something with you…I hate Christmas. I have hated it for a very long time. For me, Christmas lost its appeal a long time ago. I don’t really know when the tide turned for me. I think after losing my parents, my heart closed on the idea of Christmas. That special spark and excitement that used to fill me as child, faded out. It’s not that I don’t enjoy being with my family and friends during the holidays, there’s just something missing.
Christmas now, is a highly commercialized farce. Its meaning is wrapped up in consumerism, buying to give, spending above your means to show love. This was never the real reason for the season. If I didn’t have children in my life, I don’t think I would celebrate it at all. To me, Christmas should mean love. Unconditional, soulful, love. I do buy gifts for my “babies,” but we have a tradition where we all spend the morning together, opening our gifts, then afterwards, we have breakfast/brunch and celebrate being a family together. That means more to me than any gift. Coming together, seeing the smiles of my godson and god-daughter, blowing their minds with my excellent gift choices, the exchanging of hugs, kisses, “I love yous”, are like heaven on earth to me. Enjoying the food that’s lovingly prepared by my cousin’s skillful hands adds to the joy. Christmas, should mean simply putting aside all differences, all grievances, and just enjoying the fact that we have survived a hellish year and we are still together.
Christmas should mean, instead of standing in long lines, pushing and shoving to get the latest Xbox, PlayStation 4 or Nintendo Switch, we should be visiting the elderly, volunteering at shelters, reaching out the less fortunate to let them know that they are seen, loved, and that they matter to us. We should all reach out for each other. There has been so much darkness in the world this year. Now is the time where we should share our light. People need it. People need to know that more good permeates the world than evil, hatred, and oppression. We need to believe in each other again.
Christmas should mean, that we should reach into our hearts, instead of our wallets to buy expensive things and give gifts that are sentimental. Write letters to your friends. Let them know how much they mean to you. Let them know if they have made a difference in your life this year. Call your parents or other family members that you aren’t close to and tell them you love them. Our lives are so much shorter than we think. The people who you think will always be around, won’t be one day. Take advantage of the moments you have with the people you love.
Lastly, Christmas should mean nothing else but love. For it was love that created us. For it is love that keeps us. Love is the driving force behind every breath we take. If there’s someone you love, someone you want to have in your life forever, someone you know that you cannot live without, reach for them. Tell them how you feel. Let them know. You only get so many tomorrows. Stop wasting them being afraid. Heal from your hurts. Open your heart. Trust. Go for love. It’s the most beautiful gift that there is and we are all worthy of it. We all deserve it. Don’t waste another day not loving the person you want to love. Let them know.
So as you all settle into your holiday celebrations, please keep in mind that we are here for love. A little baby born in a manger was given to us to show us the ultimate love. We can live in that example. We can continue to carry the promise. We can continue to believe. I love you all and I wish you the merriest Christmas ever. Love each other always.
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